Edward de Gale, Toronto Pianist, Songwriter and Poet

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

How Coddled are Kids in Toronto?

A couple days ago I witnessed a father telling his kids (who looked to be between the ages of 8 and 12) that they cannot cross the street except at the corner) and saying that it was "Too dangerous for you kids to cross right now."

This was unusual because it was an empty street in Toronto's East York suburbia. There wasn't even a single moving car in sight.

Every car on the quiet street was parked and the nearest intersection was a good 45 second drive away at normal suburbia driving speed. This meant the kids had to walk several minutes down to the intersection, cross the street, and then walk back for several minutes.

Plus the father was present. He was right there watching them. He could have easily "supervised" them crossing the street, but instead forced them to walk down to the intersection and cross there instead.

Meanwhile I just crossed the street right in front of them, content in the knowledge that my parents were not morons and they had taught me how to cross a street and look both ways when I was about 4 years old.

Toronto kids apparently are so coddled and afraid of "parked cars" that they have to walk down the intersection. (Also, statistically speaking, aren't people more likely to get struck by a car at an intersection where there is bound to be twice as many cars???)

Ahem.

Then today it happened again. More coddling.

I was at a library and overheard a librarian who was managing a gaggle of 8 kids, all around 12 years old or so. They were making paper snowflakes with scissors and stringing popcorn with needles. (This alone bothered me, because today is November 16th and Christmas Day isn't for another 39 days!!!)

The librarian explained that they needed the older kids to do this, because the younger kids (11 or younger supposedly) might hurt themselves if they were allowed to use scissors or needles.

At which point I got tempted to turn around and ask the librarian "Seriously, how coddled are these kids that you cannot trust them with a needle?"

But I did not. Mostly because I did not want to cause a scene. They would probably think I was crazy. I can imagine what they would think or say: "How dare that strange man think children might be responsible enough to handle scissors or needles?! He must be mentally deranged or something."

This reminded me of something I saw on Facebook.

A mother had posted photos of her son doing chores around the home. Chores! How dare she?! People were accusing her of child abuse, child neglect, and saying she was an unfit mother because she had taught her son how to:

  • Sweep and/or vacuum the floor.
  • Pack and unpack the dishwasher.
  • Mend clothing.
  • Do his own laundry.
  • Clean his room.
  • Handwash dishes.
  • Making simple meals.

Oh my! That is some serious child abuse, teaching her son how to be responsible and actually do stuff around the home.

Meanwhile my parents had trusted me when I was younger with such responsibilities as:

  • Walking the dog.
  • Feeding the dog and/or cats.
  • Using the BBQ to make food.
  • Lighting the furnace (and not burning the house down).
  • Keeping the fireplace going with more firewood.
  • Chopping firewood with an axe.
  • Stacking firewood in rows.
  • Mowing the lawn with the riding lawnmower.
  • Cleaning the pool (without falling in and drowning).
  • Babysitting other children.
  • Fetching vegetables from the garden.
  • Weeding the garden.
  • Raking leaves.
  • Handwash the sharp knives in the sink and put them away.

Which is to say nothing of any hobbies I had that involved woodworking, welding, or using power tools. Completely unsupervised.

So to answer my question about how coddled kids are in Toronto these days?

Extremely coddled.

To the point that if a nuclear apocalypse happened these kids (and probably their parents) would be doomed because they probably have zilch for survival skills.

In other news Donald Trump is now president elect of the USA. Hell hath clearly frozen over, so I would not be surprised if we were due for World War Three. Call me paranoid, but I have begun brushing up on my survival skills.

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Handling Writer's Block: Tips for Overcoming Creative Challenges

Writer's block can be a frustrating and discouraging experience that affects writers of all levels. It's that dreaded moment when creativity seems to come to a halt, leaving you staring at a blank page or screen. However, with the right strategies, you can overcome writer's block and reignite your creative flow. 

Below we will explore several tips to help you navigate and overcome creative challenges, allowing your writing to flourish once again. 

Let's dive in!

  1. Embrace Freewriting: Freewriting is a technique where you write continuously without worrying about grammar, structure, or coherence. Set a timer for a specific duration, such as 10 minutes, and let your thoughts flow onto the page. This process helps bypass your inner critic and allows ideas to emerge organically.

  2. Change Your Environment: A change of scenery can do wonders for overcoming writer's block. Step away from your usual writing space and find a new location that inspires you. It could be a café, a park, or even a different room in your home. A fresh environment can stimulate your creativity and help break through mental barriers.

  3. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your writing goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Instead of overwhelming yourself with a whole novel or a long article, focus on writing a paragraph, a scene, or a short paragraph each day. Achieving these smaller goals can boost your motivation and build momentum.

  4. Try Different Writing Exercises: Engage in writing exercises to stimulate your creativity. This could include prompts, word association, or even writing in a different genre or style. By exploring new techniques, you can unlock fresh ideas and perspectives.

  5. Take Breaks and Practice Self-Care: Sometimes, writer's block is a sign of mental or creative fatigue. Take regular breaks to rest, recharge, and engage in activities that bring you joy. Practice self-care through activities like exercise, reading, listening to music, or spending time in nature. Taking care of your overall well-being can improve your mindset and rekindle your creativity.

  6. Seek Inspiration: Expose yourself to various sources of inspiration. Read books, articles, and poetry within your genre or explore new genres altogether. Watch movies, listen to music, or immerse yourself in art. Exposing yourself to different forms of creativity can spark new ideas and ignite your imagination.

  7. Write Through the Resistance: Even when inspiration feels elusive, make a habit of writing regularly. Set aside dedicated time each day, regardless of whether you feel inspired or not. Committing to this practice can train your brain to switch into creative mode, helping you overcome writer's block over time.

  8. Find Support and Accountability: Connect with other writers or join writing groups where you can share your challenges and triumphs. Engaging with a supportive community can provide encouragement, feedback, and fresh perspectives. You can also find an accountability partner who can help you stay on track with your writing goals.

  9. Experiment with Different Writing Techniques: Try different writing techniques that help you bypass creative blocks. This may include brainstorming, mind mapping, or outlining your ideas. Experimentation allows you to discover which techniques resonate with you and enable your creativity to flow more freely.

  10. Embrace Imperfection: Perfectionism often contributes to writer's block. Remember that first drafts are meant to be imperfect. Give yourself permission to write without judgment or self-criticism. Editing and refinement come later. Embrace the messy, imperfect process of creation and let your creativity flow without constraints.

Writer's block is a common challenge, but it doesn't have to be an insurmountable obstacle. By implementing these tips and techniques, you can overcome creative challenges, reignite your inspiration, and unlock your writing potential. Remember, creativity is a journey, and writer's block is just a temporary detour. Stay persistent, be kind to yourself, and trust in your ability to navigate through creative challenges. 

Happy writing!

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